A lot of new clients ask us how they will feel after their divorce has been finalised. Some people get to the end of their divorce and they’re in the new normal where they feel at peace with their relationship status.
Others mourn the marriage or relationship they once had.
Other clients ask us if they can find happiness after a divorce and the answer is, YES you can. Although very few people will say that they enjoyed going through a divorce, with time, almost all of our clients found themselves feeling happier than they had in a long time.
In our experience, divorce or separation is a golden opportunity to redesign your life. When you’re going through a break-up, the future is either a blank canvas or a black hole. Our advice? Throw as much colour on that canvas.
We’re going to unpack some of the benefits of ending an unhappy relationship.
Embracing new experiences
When your separate from your partner, there are often many big life changes like a new place to live or even a new job. Although a fresh start may feel very daunting, it often gives people the push they need to embrace new experiences.
We’ve seen clients jet off to the Antarctic and enjoy their dream trip that their ex-partner was never keen to go on.
Other clients decided to take up kickboxing, pottery or learn the guitar because they now have more time and mental freedom.
You may feel more in charge of your life, empowered, ready to have fun, and emotionally and physically healthier than you have been in years.
Building an active social life
When you leave a relationship or marriage that wasn’t working, you open up many new possibilities. You may find that you have more time than before which means you can spend quality time with friends and family who you may not have seen in a while. Most people lose touch with old friends when they have been in a long-term relationship and reconnecting with old friends can give you the positivity you need after a divorce.
Remember that you are more than just who you were with your partner. You still have lots to offer the world, and the people you care about. You may be tempted to jump right back into dating to help fill the void. Check in with yourself and be aware of your motivations before getting seriously involved with someone new.
Spending quality time with your children
We’ve supported countless clients through their separations, and it’s not divorce that harms children – it’s the conflict they witness. An unstable home with constant conflict, arguments, and unhappiness is inevitably worse for them. Once you have dealt with the divorce process, you will have the mental capacity to focus on your children even if you’re co-parenting with your ex-partner.Divorce can also teach children valuable life skills depending on how you respond.
Show your children that sometimes the wheels will fall off in life but you can dust yourself down and become stronger than ever before.
How can Johnson Legal Family Law help me?
At Johnson Legal, we care about our clients. We recognise that a divorce or separation can be one of the most stressful events you will ever experience.
We understand that seeking Family Law advice can be very daunting. However, when you get in touch with us, you will find a tailored, highly personal and reassuring approach which will empower you to take back control.
If you’ve decided divorce is the next step for you, check out our blog post on How to get a divorce in Edinburgh.
We offer all our clients a free, 15-minute consultation call with one of our solicitors to determine how we can help. Call our office on 0131 622 8477 email [email protected] or submit your enquiry here.
